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Sensate Focus: A Starter Practice
A foundational sex-therapy exercise to rebuild trust, presence, and pleasure in touch - without the pressure of performance.
Start-Stop: Reclaiming Control
A graded technique to build awareness of arousal and lengthen time before ejaculation. Solo or partnered.
The Bridging Conversation
A structured conversation for couples whose desires don't line up - without it becoming a fight.
The 90-Second Grounding Reset
A quick body-based reset for the moment anxiety hijacks your nervous system - before, during, or after sex.
Desire Mapping
A solo reflection to figure out what actually turns you on - and what shuts you down. The foundation for any conversation about sex.
The Sexual Desire Poisons Inventory
Based on Dr. Barry McCarthy's clinical model - name what's quietly killing desire in your relationship, then make a plan to neutralize it.
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One exercise can move things. A real plan moves them further. If you want to talk it through - what's actually driving this, and what would actually help - Vanessa offers a free 15-minute consultation. Johns Hopkins-trained, AASECT-certified. No pressure to continue.